Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. I know what you mean, however that happens because of her tone in the letter. It doesnt have to be living with them (while taking their money, ahem). Make sure you can support a baby before getting pregnant. But in a marriage, couples may often feel like they hate each other. Avail years best deals on our marriage courses! However, its just for a short while. But going this route just doesnt work for the letter writer. Ive noticed men are careless with how they leave things (even knives) on the counter. Learn what to do when you dont like your husband in the following: 13 Tips on What to Do if You Dislike Your Spouse, ? "I Hate that My Husband Takes Care of His Mother" In the beginning, I absolutely adored my MIL and had no worries about the promise my husband had made (long before I knew him) to always take care of her because she had a stroke several years earlier. FiL has some nerve lecturing LW about broken promises when he is the one that (presumably) vowed before God to take care of MIL through sickness and in health. June 18, 2015, 9:53 am. ChickenNugget I walked around the corner into the kitchen and the knife was right there, almost touching me. When you approach this you HAVE to have some empathy. Is this a normal feeling? She was conscious and present, but she physically had difficulty even just doing that. You can completely remove all of the details of the living situation from this letter and theres one thing that still sticks out to me. Wouldnt you want the same or is everything supposed to benefit you in some way? Start by making your husband aware of your feelings before taking other steps. Its all well and good to lecture about having compassion for the stroke victim but LWs first priority needs to be the safety and well being of her minor children. something random honeybeenicki For what we have (3 bedrooms, 1 bath on one side, 2 bedrooms, 1 bath on the other and a usable but not completely finished basement on both sides that are the size of the upstairs) we would have paid at least twice as much for a house with the same number of rooms (or even fewer). I *DO* appreciate how difficult that has to be for the LW, and I can empathize with that frustration. This situation can make you hate your husband and wish you arent together. You probably hate him because he is flawed. something random Jeez, I think these responses are kind of harsh. Somewhere along the way, this influenced you to have a dysfunctional view on relationships. Clearly, she does not seem capable of living alone without some care. Shes the one who asked whether she was wrong for asking her husband to break his promise to care for his mother after they are done needing her free place to live in, and, sorry, but the answer is yeah. Also, yeah it totally sucks that MIL had a stroke but having compassion doesnt mean that LW has to subject herself or her children to abuse and unsanitary living conditions. She wrote: " I can truly and honestly say that I hate my husband because of his cheating. You might dislike cohabiting with your husband because you dont see him as your friend. I hear you. 6. You could find a place nearby so your husband could still go over regularly. She never lets him get discouraged. . I understand that they are divorced but I wanted to point out the utter hypocrisy of him trying to hold his son to a promise made long ago. I have mentioned that I love living now? with yourself. We expect it to be a. between two individuals in love who are ready to build a home. When you hate your husband so much, the reason could be because. You might say, I hate my husband, because he has hurt you a lot in the past. Having a vagina does not automatically sign me up to take care of my husbands elderly mother or to act as his social secretary. The issue isnt about hating your partner. Banking on getting a job right after graduation is not a good idea. But who among us isnt? Never asked her husband how she was, what her life was like, how she was managing living alone, post-stroke? However, you should check yourself when you start, The Significance and Importance of Forgiveness in a Marriage, We think they have failed and hate them when they dont meet our. Do I hope that he still makes time for me and does what he can to help in my hour of need? From your original comment I wouldnt have known. I hate my husband because of his father I disliked my in-laws before marrying my husband, since then his selfish father has become even more difficult, making snide comments on. Duplex is a great idea. Only in the last couple years, since she has formally disowned me and my nice sister for no good reason and stopped speaking to us entirely, have they gotten her to accept any kind of therapy, and they have run through a number of therapists. Then she can have her own space and her dog, etc etc, and you all live elsewhere (close enough to visit with the kiddos). I mean, think about how you would want to be treated by your own children then apply that to your parents or your partners parents. Sorry, but is the MIL is that bad off, she belongs in a place where she can be looked after 24/7 and there senior citizen apartments that have such care that comes with them. In essence, you can hate something or someone you love from time to time when things dont go your way. And I wasnt even the primary care giver! If couple activities were a part of your marriage and you stopped doing them because of busy work schedules, it may be the reason you have started to dislike your husband. Its another thing to tell her shes a jerk and entitled. Its not easy, but its necessary. A central . Not My Promise. June 18, 2015, 10:11 am. June 18, 2015, 10:27 am. . It sounds like they are all (MIL included) living in pretty shitty conditions. Nicole It makes sense for the letter writer not to delay graduation or accumulate debt or dip into savings during a temporary situation if they were ultimately planning on living with the MIL, anyway. She doesnt live with us anymore and I never reach out to her. She needs professional care. Having a selfish husband means being stuck with stunted communication in your marriage. . How come you suddenly dislike your husband or slowly hating my husband? But not wanting her anywhere near them ever doesnt seem like a good solution. I find myself, however, drowning in internal protestations of "I deserve to be treated better.". She was FAR nicer to me than LWs MIL is to her. And if you cant afford your own place yet because you and your husband are both unemployed, then TOUGH SHIT. Even if youre overwhelmed and exhausted and hormonal and emotionally drained, the answer is still yeah, its wrong to abandon a loved one who needs care (especially when you no longer need anything from him/her) just because its inconvenient. He refuses even to consider counseling. Soooo I think that Husband promised to step in and take care of his mother. When spouses dont respect each other, they stop being responsible. I agree. Get her somewhere with regular care or take care of her, just quit using her for her money. But relationships go both ways, and I think all parties need to give a little. TaraMonster New activities offer a change of environment, which in itself can make you feel closer to your partner. something random Thats her fault not the MILs. The best way to show you love your partner is through respect. For instance, your partners appreciate kids, but you dont. You do know that years ago it wasnt well known that babies shouldnt have honey, right? It wont make him change, and guess what? June 18, 2015, 11:02 am. Wendy, I think your column was great advice for this letter writer. As for being totally unaware of the current state of her MILs condition before they moved in? However, a husband attached to his mother at the hip might be more of a problem. Slooooow clap for Wendy!!! They tend to be confrontational and hard headed. It sounds like the son wants to collect her money and provide the care himself. Sep 27, 2019 at 1:55 PM. by recognizing they are different from you through their opinions, experiences, and values. , RedRoverRedRover Do you have any unresolved issues with yourself? June 18, 2015, 10:49 am, honeybeenicki All rights reserved. Someone just left it carelessly, is all, and the configuration of the kitchen meant you could come around the corner without seeing it. I understand that you dont feel comfortable allowing her to care for your children. He's always asking my parents for money and they give to him. Working with people in this condition is taxing, so I really cant imagine living with them. It ended up being the best thing for her. The long-estranged FILs statement that the sons promise is the LWs promise is utter horseshit. His dad moved states, and they now have a strained relationship. June 18, 2015, 9:45 am. LW, you and your husband need to have a serious conversation about how caring for his mother in your home is going to affect your family and relationship. One way to stop hating is to forgive them so that you can heal. My mother really really hates my husband, Mike*. (Right?) Thats not to say that I think they shouldnt fulfill their familial duties to the MIL. Well, it turns out that his mom felt attacked. May 9, 2022 by by Skyblossom What I find even more awful than wanting to just flat out abandon her is your complete lack of compassion for this woman, and how youre allowing her to, as Wendy put it, rot in her own filth in her bedroom. * Marriage brings two individuals in love together. Seeking more interesting shared activities is fine, but she may not be creating any desire on the LWs part to be in her company. One thing you should know that being married to a husband attached to his mother is not always a bad thing. I like Wendys suggestion that the letter writer finds a way to honor her obligation to her mother in law in way that doesnt dry her out from resentment year after year. We offend each other, but you will find it challenging to forgive someone who does it repeatedly and unapologetically. The famous statement that marriage isnt a bed of roses comes true here. Sometimes theyre just desperate to get out of their current situation without thought to what is actually the right best thing to do. It really puts her in a terrible light, in my opinion. Many women want a reliable partner to effectively manage a home and a family. Effective and intentional communication cant be overemphasized. June 18, 2015, 9:56 am. Check the following practical methods when you dont know what to do when you dislike the man youve married: An excellent way to evaluate the situation is to start asking the questions like, Why am I starting to hate my husband?. FWIW I wouldnt want to live with either of my parents either, or take on the role of caregiver. Its a daunting prospect to consider and I dont blame the letter writer for wanting out (on a purely emotional level). Taken time to learn what the MILs issues really were and what kind of care she needed. February 24, 2017, 11:06 am. Turns out my daughter had tried to wake him up for juice, his mom told her not to wake him and that she would get it for her. Id suggest putting a child gate across the door to grandmas room but grandma might not be able to open and close it and certainly doesnt sound able to step over it. How? She is not to be left alone for a single second with the baby. You might hate your husband because of the wrong ideas from dysfunctional relationship beliefs that you have unconsciously absorbed from your environment. We expect it to be a perfect partnership between two individuals in love who are ready to build a home. Its really not that hard. Now Im not reeling from yesterdays letter (I didnt have time) but as far as entitlement goes its one thing to think youve made an arrangement that is mutually beneficial for everyone involved, its another to realize youve signed on to be the tenet and care-taker for the landlord from hell for the next few decades. Copyright 2023 Dear Wendy. Is there a senior center in your community? Doing things together offer couples opportunities to enjoy each others company and finding loving ways to complete tasks together. Earlier I was thinking, what does she mean, a promise to take care of his mother? But if this happens frequently, you must ask yourself, Why do I feel like I hate my husband?. We pay the majority of the bills, take care of the house, provide the groceries, and drive her to and from her appointments. However, you will stop hating your husband when you acknowledge your role in the situation. Understand that many of your expectations before marriage will crumble because living together often shows us their new traits. Once you figure the problem out, it will be easy. But straight out choosing to abandon MIL and not worry about it isnt right. So, get your own place. June 18, 2015, 10:39 am. It would be best to intensify your effort to draw your partner closer in marriage. My husband's sister has lived in another state since before I met him. And I dont think the anger the commenters are feeling is inappropriate, either. Not true. Ive seen some wonderfully compassionate but at the same time get-your-shit-together blunt responses to folks who needed to be knocked upside the head multiple times, and Im not sure why those morons deserve the compassion but this lady does not. Marriage doesnt mean you stopped treating your partner like you used to when you were courting. Being an older person, she must have a lot of wisdom to share and the LW isnt accepting that. The temporary hatred you feel often fades once your husband changes or you get what you want. I am not saying she should take care of the baby alone, but there are ways to say things. You dont get to complain about the free place youve been crashing in for however many months, no matter how much deep cleaning you had to do to make it livable. Raccoon eyes Its really easy to theorize what it is like taking care of a wacko (through no fault of their own). Are you happy within yourself? I think it would be an act of compassion to carefully consider that other people may have their own reasons for having a completely different set of expectations for themselves regarding their parents/in-laws besides just being a bad son or daughter that doesnt care about a helpless elder. The fact that Mom is providing the roof currently does not give her carte blanche for any and all bad behaviour. Im sorry. I think the usual rule with inlaws should be that the blood child is the one who manages the relationship, and I think the husband needs to do a better job managing Moms expectations as well as the LWs. Did they both come up for sale at the same time? And we even asked a contractor about the possibility of putting in an internal door in the future just in case. Maybe a cut would have occured, but not anything as dramatic as the LW presents. The message would be the same, but the approach could be a lot different. Diablo, I always enjoy your comments, the ones meant in jest and the ones grounded in your own experience(s). Nobody has said that she has an easy life, all of us understood she is having a hard time, but, I dont know, just her tone and the way she talks about the woman whos helped her and plans to ditch her, makes me feel like she is really entitled. You complain, complain, complain about everything you have to do for her and how grossed out you are by her and about this horrible promise your husband made to, gasp, care for his ailing mother, but wouldnt you want your kids to show some care for you if you werent able to care for yourself and they were in a position to help out a little? Here we were deep cleaning her house, since she let it get really nasty, just so we can live there with my 8-year-old daughter (from a previous relationship), and shes picking arguments with us almost daily for six months. June 18, 2015, 10:02 am. She got in way over her head. It may be that her attitude needs some adjusting, perhaps due to the immediate stress of the babys impending arrival. I grew up in a family that didnt make the human body sinful or sexual in nonsexual situations. He spends less time at home. The very day we got to her house she began accusing us of taking things, and just finding any and every complaint she could find to make. No matter how busy life is, spouses should dedicate time to each other. Sometimes she stepped up and was a wonderful grandmother, but most of the time she didn't. Each time she let my husband down, like when he realized that she had only seen our new baby three. 3 Detrimental Effects of Lack of Communication in Marriage, Marriage Is Not About Your Happiness but Is About Compromise, The Importance of Date Night in a Marriage and Tips to Make It Happen, Indeed, you are lovers, but that doesnt take away the place of respect. What changed all of a sudden? I promised my mom that she could live in the east wing of my giant mansionguess whatshes not holding me to a promise I made as a child. My point here is that stroke victims are greatly affected by even the most basic of things: cooking, cleaning, taking care of themselves, etc. Actually, as much as I love my own mother I would rather move her into an assisted living than allow her to abuse and berate my husbandI made vows to my husband not my mother. Some wives say I hate living with my husband because he refuses to change some of his unpleasant habits. Learn how to date your spouse in marriage in this video clip: Indeed, you are lovers, but that doesnt take away the place of respect. June 18, 2015, 11:29 am. June 18, 2015, 10:57 am. Sunshine Brite Instead, engage in healthy and thoughtful communication to solve the problem. And not everyone wants to go around sharing their motives with the strangers of the world. It also sounds like she is doing the care that her husband should be doing seeing how its his mother. So maybe instead of being a jerk shes ill-prepared and panicked. Now that we have a toddler Ive really had to remind my husband about it. to solve the problem. Your spouse had children before he or she met you. He needs to adequately defend their needs and manage boundaries. It sounds like she is/will be a loving grandparent who just needs boundaries. . We were always responsible for working around her illness and walking on eggshells. Also. So I suppose I really not adding much to the conversation here, so I will just end there. Because if so, wasnt she stewing in her own filth then too? My husband blames him for being an absent dad. Just because he couldn't help it, it doesn't mean you are not angry that he had a stroke . The husband is a coward for not making his wife and kids a priority and the MIL is a mentally ill selfish bitch for expecting everyones life to stop and care for her 24/7. What Lies Do to a Marriage? My MIL and I are not close. Tell her to reframe, tell her not to welsh on her MIL, tell her its the price she pays for being family and getting a free house, but why is it so wrong to do it with with a different tone? I get that living there is hard for you. Theres a nicer way to present it. It was her idea to live with her MIL because she needed her, and know that she wont she just plans to leave her to her fate, and make her husband leave her too. We don't see mil very often for many reasons. TaraMonster I just cant believe you are perfectly fine using your MIL for a place to live now, when you need her but, youre unwilling to help when she needs you. Before, you considered each others blemishes, and you werent judgmental. can help resolve some of the tension between you and your partner. . It could be taking her to get her hair done, helping her clean up after her dog, doing yard work for her, etc. Be an adult, support yourself, and if you need help, accept it graciously and compassionately and dont look your gift horse in the mouth (i.e. You. If she does in fact have mental health issues, whether or not they are consequent to the stroke, they should be assessed and addressed appropriately, but that doesnt excuse her demanding and entitled behaviour either. You might hate your husband because he prioritizes only himself. The thing is if she wasnt happy she should have moved out. Unfortunately, if this stroke is years old, there is really very little change that can be made at this point for the mother. How Do I Make My Partner Realize Their Responsibilities? You can even lead by replicating some of those times. am i projecting like a mfer? June 18, 2015, 2:01 pm. If anything, it sounds like she is starved for contact, whether she knows that or not. It is simply about being able to express your thoughts honestly and openly to your spouse. And I can just now stomach pineapple. However, don't dwell much on it. All Im saying, a lot of this responses are piling on the LW and telling her to have sympathy for her MIL (which is true, she needs to find that and take on a more compassionate view of the situation) while at the same time being pretty unsympathetic to what the LW is going through. And I would assume husband had an OK upbringing, hence the promise to always look after mother. Marriage is an exciting experience for most people. June 18, 2015, 10:02 am. Just really need to rant. It is possible that you hate your husband because he stopped being responsible. They often have tons of options for activities and just getting out may help her mental and emotional well being. Love is more enjoyable when the two partners are on the same page. Why do I feel like I hate my husband? The harsh truth is that you have a vague and unrealistic idea of marriage. And she is still getting a free place to live and wants to continue getting a free place to live and not move out right now, until she gets a job. Like, angled so that the blade was over the edge of the counter, almost parallel to the counter. We bought the entire building because the owner was selling it. Same advice as to what she should do, but different tone. Appreciate those gestures by reminding them. Its a great solution and if you can find the entire building for sale, its actually often cheaper to purchase than a home that would provide you with the same amount of rooms. I really think they should move out and rent awhile and find an alternative way to take care of the MIL. Know that youre not alone in this struggle, there are support groups for family members of stroke victims (try an internet search) It might be worth checking them out to get ideas from others in your situation about what they have done for care of their relatives when problem solving deficits are leading to unsafe living conditions. They had to know going in what the situation would be like, but hey! You know- where folks can get an apartment-type setup, but they can get the level of help they need- be it someone to clean once a week or day or to help them get to appointments or take meds or whatever. Sometimes, we place immense expectations and responsibilities on our partners. For a few weeks or months. These people, who dont seem to give a shit about aging, ailing parents, are the worst! Thankfully, this article has done a great job highlighting common reasons wives hate their husbands and what they can do. But realistically, it sounds like it was just that you lived separately and helped her out less? Im sympathetic to the LW. June 18, 2015, 9:38 am, I like Wendys response. Imagine how shocking it is to hear some wives say, I hate my husband so much. What could be the reason for this statement, and what can you do? It's also very difficult to blame others when we're using I-Statements. While you can encourage your partner to change some behaviors, it is better to accept that his flaws will always be part of him. Also, they offer proven methods that will save your marriage. You can also take the advice of many marriage counselors and therapists if you need more enlightenment. In fact, someone else may be a far better option. She could have written in about the husband and issues with navigating her MILs care and left everything else out. I am always kind and civil and I do ask my husband how she is from time to time but I do not contact her in any way. Having worked with many stroke patients, the behaviour described sounds very typical. 3. He's "nice" and "helpful.". However, only attentive partners will care to ask what their partners think. Its possible to dislike your husband and still love them simultaneously. I think leaving when she no longer needs the financial help from the MIL and washing her hands of it just makes her seem crappy. Skyblossom Im not saying it will be easy or that she will agree without putting up any resistance, but your husband, and maybe even your FIL, should be the ones sorting that out while you SUPPORT him in a loving way. I think it is important the letter writer is honest with herself and her husband about this before they commit to buying a house. It does make me think the FIL has a point about her exaggerating safety issues as an excuse to try to get what she wants. June 18, 2015, 10:27 am. I cant believe how willing you are to drop her without any support vs. setting up support from afar. 4. 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